6 Foolproof Tips for When Your Kid's a Flower Girl or Ring Bearer
1 months ago, 22 June 23:06
Flower girls and ring bearers are undoubtedly the most adorable members of a wedding party. But encouraging your little one to walk down the aisle without tears or tantrums may seem impossible. Consider the processional from your kids' point of view: They're asked to walk down a pathway wearing formal (read: uncomfortable) clothing, while tossing flower petals or holding a pillow, in front of dozens of people staring and snapping photos. Can you blame them for feeling a little bit of stage fright? Luckily, there are some simple ways to help your little one feel great on the big day. Here, two experts share six foolproof tips for getting your flower girl and ring bearer down the aisle.
Most flower girls and ring bearers fall between the ages of three and eight, and for good reason: Younger kids typically don't understand the processional, and they're more likely to act out. If your toddler is an attendant, consider asking the bride and groom if you can walk with them down the aisle, since young children are more comfortable with trusted adults. "I say having a parent walk down with them is a lot better than a child refusing and not walking down the aisle at all," says Tara Angelopoulos of Dream Makers Event Planning. Similarly, if the ring bearer and flower girl know each other, suggesting that they walk together may ward off nerves or tantrums.
If your child is older than four, try emphasizing the importance of their role in the wedding. According to Kelly Dellinger, owner and principal planner of Kelly Dellinger Events, knowing just how special this job is will encourage them to do a great job. "Kids love knowing they play a big role in such an important event. The more you can do to get them to look forward to walking down the aisle, the more likely they'll enjoy it and really get into it."
Our experts agree that children of all ages can't refuse a bribe. Try holding a treat at the front of the aisle. In theory, your child will be distracted by the goodies during the processional, and they'll focus all energy on reaching you and the item. Alternatively, if you have older kids, you can promise to give them a coveted toy after the wedding, as long as your child behaves during the processional.
Prior to the ceremony, have your flower girls and ring bearers practice their entrance several times, and to do this as close to the actual processional time as possible, Angelopoulos recommends. If you rely solely on the ceremony rehearsal, your child may not remember the directions properly, since they aren't fresh in their minds. Plus, the vibe at the actual ceremony will be completely different than at the rehearsal. According to Dellinger, "Know that you're not necessarily guaranteed the same star performance that may come the day before. A child may be struck by social anxiety once the entire church fills up with strangers."
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