Let's examine our personal goals for 2018, match them to family goals
7 months ago, 1 Jan 13:25
My main target for 2018 is to fulfil my unaccomplished objectives for 2017; which I should have struggled for in 2016, since I promised to do so in 2015, given that I had planned for them in 2014, and I had set for myself in 2013. Thus, life goes on, “slipping through our fingers like water”. In Journalution, Sandy Grason explains: Our lives are not and will never be stagnant. We are in constant motion. When we try to hold on too tightly, life just slips through our fingers like water. It is easy to fantasise about a finish line and think that then our lives will be terrific. But it just does not work that way. And it’s self-defeating to live that way. There will always be another imaginary finish line out of reach. Our lives are made up of consecutive mountains and valleys, ups and downs… This is our life. There is no perfect society or perfect country. I have never met anyone who achieved all his or her life targets, for when it happens, the danger of suicide is on sight. There is no African country among the top 20 suicidal countries in the world, though some experts include Côte d’Ivoire, South Africa and Zimbabwe in some cases. In many wealthy Western societies, suicide has become a ‘way of life’. These are self-centred, egoistic societies, where pleasure and comfort is the number one indicator of quality of life. In some sad cases, personal worth is measured in terms of profit, which is essential for buying pleasure and comfort. Thus, as soon as you are no longer profitable, you are redundant, disposable…then euthanasia becomes the most sensible way out. SUICIDAL THOUGHTS Incidentally, Budapest, which is listed as the most beautiful capital in the world, had the highest suicide rate in the world in the second half of the 20th century. This number has progressively decreased in the last decade, but the number of Hungarians who decide to take their own lives is still high in the list, with more than 19 people out of 100,000 committing suicide. Greenland, with a per capita income of $37,000, tops the list as the number one suicidal region in the world. There are many factors that should be considered when collating suicide statistics. Environment, wealth, health, stress, religion… But there is one factor that is often overlooked — family. According to the socioeconomic circumpolar database ArcticStat, in Greenland, there were 1,428 unions in 2011. Sixty per cent of those were de facto cohabitations. In 2011 too, there were 516 divorces. BROKEN HOMES, SHATTERED DREAMS These figures have been more or less constant since 1995, which means that only 340 marriages survive every year. It may be necessary to carry out serious research to find out what and when the resilience of families in Greenland broke apart. It would be naïve to say that suicide happens only in broken families. I have known at least four painful cases of suicide that happened in ...
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