Indecent proposal: Why modern-day courtship is scam, big scam!
3 weeks ago, 09:05
A certain Shichuma was devastated when he learnt of his wife’s death. She had been unwell for a couple of days when he sent her home to recuperate, away from the stressful hustle and bustle of the city and he hoped all will be well.
Unfortunately her health deteriorated very fast. Still, nothing had prepared him for the shocking news he was to encounter in the village.
Just as he settled down to start arrangements for that final journey, his wife’s family had other ideas. They calmly told him that they did not recognise him as their daughter’s husband because she had been previously married to another man, whom they said was her ‘rightful’ husband.
Until the untimely death, Sichuma had lived together with her as man and wife in Nairobi and even had a child together-she died as a result of complications many weeks after childbirth, in fact.
Throughout her hospitalisation, he had been paying her medical bills. To friends and neighbours in the city, the two were a in a marital union, but back in the village they only recognise the man who ‘informed’ them that he had their daughter and Sichuma was, at best, a benevolent stranger.
“He thought he was going to sort out the pending bills and raise money to bury his wife, but he has to deal with other issues first. They flatly told him that he can take his child, but not their daughter,” Reuben, a close friend reveals as collections towards a small kitty to be sent to Sichuma are finalised.
The recent case involving a famous journalist and her fiancé probably brought the fragility of these urban relationships- merely arrangements, to some- to the fore.
The TV girl, however, is not alone. More Kenyans are married or engaged to miscreants they would never settle down with had proper background checks been done. Closet homosexuals, murderers, rapists, thieves, night-runners, child molesters, name them.
While it is common knowledge that the couple was living together within the relationship status of ‘engaged’, after he famously proposed to her on social media, it all meant little before the law.
No amount of likes, ‘aaaws’, loving comments or memes would make her a legal spouse. In fact, unlike it is the case in a traditional marriage where a spouse can’t testify against a partner in a criminal matter, these come-we-try types can testify against each other.
In essence and after all, they were nothing more than roommates in love.
The institution of fiancé(e) is a strange one to many people who cannot understand the idea of someone bringing home someone’s daughter, with the full knowledge of their parents but not their blessings- all because he went down on one knee and asked a question in the presence of age mates who would ordinarily not even be allowed in bridal negotiations!
Many point out that there is no equivalent of the word ‘fiancé’ in African culture. “It’s either mtu ni bibi yako ama ni mtoto wa wazazi wake (either she is your wife or her parents’ child).
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